Mental Health - the Core OS of our lives

In my last 3-4 years, besides learning all the IoT tech stuff I can honestly say that my biggest breakthroughs had nothing to do with code or hardware.
They had everything to do with “đối nhân xử thế” how we deal with people. How we survive them. How we survive ourselves.
Among my peers, I’m labeled the “super introverted” guy. That’s the box I was thrown into even before I knew there is a box. But introversion and extroversion are just one axis in an entire galaxy of variables that shape who we are at any moment.
The truth is: personality is a soup. And the ingredients change daily.
So I kept digging.
I started studying Narcissism, once I understood the basics suddenly the patterns in my life started to make sense. There are many types: overt narcissists, covert ones, vulnerable narcissism, grandiose types, malign types, Borderline Personality Disorder…
And then there’s the unfortunate cocktail: when I was stuck dealing with multiple narcissists at the same time for many years! It's horrible: mentally, physically, financially, emotionally drained. It was deeply educational and life-changing.
Then I turned the mirror inward: What about me? What kind of person am I? Why do I attract these people? Am I evil myself?
That sent me down the rabbit hole of nature vs. nurture, gender identity, mental archetypes, and the thousand ways we label human behaviors.
And here are some lessons I wish someone had taught me earlier:
‣ There is no "weaker" gender. Some women are strong by nature. Others by circumstance. Some men are feminine by environment.
‣ We don’t need a “better half,” we need a true witness of our life, someone to hear us, see us. One person is enough. Just one.
‣ Evil people exists, they live next to you.
Sometimes they are loud and obvious.
Sometimes they are the charming, quiet kind, polite on the outside, manipulative at the core.
As an empath, I have been a perfect target, all my life.
But I learned. And I survived.
‣ Heaven and Hell are not destinations.
They’re stages of life that everyone has to go through. Real. Tangible. I’ve been to both too many times, sometimes by choice, sometimes by force. I’m not proud of every single chapter. But I never broke. Not once. I came back every time. I don't stay in Heaven, I don't stay in Hell, I live in the present.
‣ Human traits are multi-dimensional, sometimes crossing into other dimensions.
MBTI. DISC. Love languages. Narcissism. Empathy. Sociopathy. Psychopathy. Alpha, Sigma, Omega archetypes. ADHD, PTSD, anxiety attacks, depression.
And then there's light worker, alien races, shaman, half-gods ... living among us.
‣ I am broken. We’re all broken in some shape or form. Every. Single. One. Of. Us.
‣ We live in different worlds and time, even when we live under the same roof.
My spouse and I wake up at the same hour, eat the same kind food, go to the same bed… but the world we each live in is shaped by different traumas. 30 years of differences before we met each other, so certainly things are not the same.
Different filters.
Different inner dialogues.
Different priorities, and needs.
‣ And here’s one that might sound crazy, but here it is anyway: 𝐓𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐞𝐱𝐢𝐬𝐭.
Not the way you were taught.
It’s not a clock. It’s not a calendar.
Time is a silent teacher.
If you get this, you’ve probably crossed over to the same insanity I have. Welcome. It’s peaceful here. I can travel to the past if I need to, I just have not found a way to effectively communicate with the future yet, it's possible but it's ... sketchy.
So… why does any of this matter?
Because the single most powerful thing I’ve learned through the enduring the darkest nights of the soul:
👉 𝐁𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐭.
Things will come if you focus your mind and let go of needing control.
Don’t rush the narrative.
Don’t rush the healing.
The story unfolds.
You are the author.
And every glitch in your mental OS is just… code that hasn’t been debugged and fixed yet.
Stay human.
Stay curious.
Stay weirdly alive.
Share this to someone who you love, it might help them in their journey in life. Sometimes, we just need someone to tell us where we are at, and then we continue on our own.